What is a blog? It is anything you make it out to be.
He replied, and he’s admitted that he’s changed. He’s not apologizing for it though – good, a respectable move on his part. He’s explained why he’s trying to accommodate his readers: he experiences a social backlash if he doesn’t, personally.
Sure, it’s easy for people to tell me write all I want. Don’t care about what other people say. You are not the first one to said that to me.
But you are not the ones picking up the pieces. I am. If I wrote something that offended people, I have to deal with the consequences. REAL LIFE consequences. Not you. How would you like to pick up the pieces for me for a change?
I don’t think he would mind that much if I posted one more snippet:
People can say shit about me all they want. But if people say shit about YOU in front of YOUR MOM, have you ever thought about how she would feel?
Let’s think about the ideal for a second, and compare this. For me, the ideal (whether it’s right or wrong) is that a blog should be a private, yet public space for sharing thoughts and ideas with other people. Since you are allowed to think whatever you want, you should be allowed to write whatever you want on your blog. Even if it offends people. I mean, it’s inevitable. I don’t try to avoid it. It’s probably part of being human. In fact, sometimes I try to provoke such a situation so that a discussion can occur (thank you everybody who commented on my last post.), for discussions help me, and hopefully the other participants, straighten out what’s right and wrong for them.
However, Kenny’s blog isn’t the kind of vulgar, casual, and very entertaining site that it once was. Today, Kennysia.com has become like a conversation at the supermarket. How are you? Oh, I’m fine, thank you. Oh, that boy’s cute. Oh yeah, I just got an iPhone yesterday. Wow, really? It’s pretty cool – hey man you gotta show that to me someday. Oh, you know, I went to Vietnam the other day. Wow what did you do there? I drank a shot of snake blood with its beating heart. Wow, gross!
I don’t know about you readers, but there’s one thing that I know for sure: I don’t need a website to do this. I can have this kind of trifling conversation with just about anybody in the whole wide world, assuming of course that I would care to tell them what I did this past weekend. This isn’t another side of me. It’s the same old, same old side of me that you can see anytime you meet me in real life. This isn’t another more vulgar, more morbidly interesting, exciting, side of me. This is… just me in real life. Hell knows I meet enough people in real life and have real life conversations with them – and therein lies my problem with Kennysia.com.
However, this ‘problem’ is rather unjustified. After all, he faces real social pressure on him. We all behave the same under social pressure: we become more polite, less offending, we try to fit in. At least Kenny didn’t do this because he wants to. We would also accommodate, or sign out and delete our accounts, if we were that well known and faced the same kind of social pressure that he does today. For Kenny, his blog has become another part of his real life encounters with people, no longer his outlet for madness and jokes that I once loved to read. I used to think: dude, Kennysia.com isn’t even a blog anymore. It’s kinda like… a newspaper, or some kind of weird excerpt from a diary, thoroughly censored and edited to suit public tastes. But a blog means different things for everybody. For me, a blog is where the other side of me comes through. Where I post my private thoughts and invite everybody to discuss, to see if I’m the only person on earth who thinks like that, and if so, why. What interesting events I’ve been through (for me, that includes life, certain games, and which anime I’ve watched). For Kenny’s blog can no longer strive towards the kind of ideal that I uphold, and perhaps to a certain extent the kind of ideal that he upheld when he first started out blogging.
Therefore I apologized instead. Because I didn’t think that it was so serious that his blog could affect his entire social life. He’s probably having a rough time of it now, but since it’s not his most important part of life, we can safely assume that he’ll live, at least online, long enough to post a few more filler posts in the meantime.
Oh yeah, BTW, Kenny, about finding my new favourite blogger: I don’t have a favourite blogger. In fact, I usually don’t read blogs.
That clarified quite a few things in my mind. For instance, it made me ask myself these questions during breakfast: what is an ideal? How far should you go to pursue this ideal? How do you know if your ideal is right or wrong?
1. An ideal is something that guides you towards the right path. It cannot guide you all the way.
2. As I said, it cannot guide you all the way. You must make choices depending on the situation.
3. You don’t know if your ideal is absolutely right or wrong, for there might be no such thing. The next best thing might be to ask what is right or wrong for you.
By sending these emails to Kenny, I was trying to guide him towards the ‘right’ ideal, the one which I had been striving for, and the one which he probably had been striving for too. He’s hit snags, though. Your ideals cannot guide you all the way. Must think of another example for this, but I’m sure there are many valid ones out there.
I began to wonder if this ideal was right, or wrong. I first thought of what the internet was built for. Then I wondered if perhaps the meaning of the internet is the meaning assigned it by each user. It’s pretty easy to figure out my thought process from there.
I’ve grown through blogging, especially through this post, where I can lay my thoughts down in black and white. I hope you readers gain something from this post, too.